Last week I was told that my position on my workday is being eliminated. It is the second time this has happened in the last two years. The first time was under very different circumstances. To be honest, being fired from a show that caused me emotional and mental stress was a relief. This time, after a depressing day, I could only ask: “OK, Universe, what’s next?”
Still, everyone wants to be in control of their destiny. No matter what the reason, it can be a real scam to say your boss is cutting your job – or, worse yet, just to receive a pink bulletin with no conversation, just a due date, and a smile. But know now what you should do if you fall into a situation like this:
Calm your feelings!
When you’re called into your boss’s office for that conversation about ending your position, there are a lot of feelings that come with it. Even if you were already planning to leave, you might feel degraded, embarrassed, sad, angry, and maybe a little relieved.
Getting fired is difficult because everyone wants to leave a situation on its own terms. Keep this in mind: You can be in your feelings for as long as you need to. Don’t let anyone tell you to “suck” or push you to smile when you just don’t want to. It is healthy to feel pain and sadness.
Most importantly – especially in the first few days after getting the news – avoid destructive urges to ignore your feelings or numb them. The worst thing you can do when you’re broken is to try to eat, drink, smoke, or spoil your feelings. Feel your feelings and work through them. Sit down with them. As they say, there is no growth in the comfort zone or comfort in the growth zone. You need to be healthy for the next step.
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You are not alone
Although getting fired is difficult, and some people will make misjudgments about you based on the fact that you lost your job, remember that you are not the first person to be fired. And you won’t be the last. In fact, some employers see the ability to go through a setback and land on your feet as a selling point.
Start looking for a new job now
You’ve already booked unemployment insurance, now you may be thinking that you just need to receive the benefit, and take a “vacation”. But this is a mistake, the country is going through a strong crisis, it is not time to depend only on unemployment insurance. What if when the benefit ends, you can’t find another job? That’s why it’s important that you start looking for a new vacancy.
Since staying active is the best way to get over a bad experience, and you want to avoid big gaps in your resume, you should start your job search ASAP.
First impression remains
Don’t let the first thing you blurt out in a job interview be, “I got fired at my last job”, if you thought that was the most important thing about you, then the employer would too. No, the first thing you should miss is your skills, experience, and enthusiasm for this company you are interviewing for. (It helps, more than a little if you’ve done some research about this company, at the library, on the Internet, among your friends, before joining.) Save the discussion about your past work and the way you do it. Leave it for later in the interview after the employer has shown some interest in actually hiring you. (Until then, your previous work history is absolutely irrelevant.)